We really hope that you will not have to deal with this, but it can still happen. You may have a woman you were very happy with and she has been unfaithful. She now has a child and you are not sure if you are the father. It may also be that you once had a husband who left you. You have had other partners in the meantime and you do not know who the father of the child could be. There are many conceivable situations where the father is unknown or where paternity is disputed. Either way, it is very difficult and can be seen by many as something that destroys families. We hope that this is not, and will not become, the case. Either way, we are going to help you a little. In this blog, we will tell you how to deal with those paternity disputes. We will give you some tips and we hope it can be resolved!
Okay, first things first. We need to look at testing first. This will immediately clarify who the father is. This is also very important when it comes to finances, because the father may have to pay alimony. It is therefore better to opt for a legal paternity test. This test involves taking samples of the child and the alleged father. This can be a blood sample, but it is usually a saliva sample. A swab is used to take some saliva and that’s it. Then the samples are analysed in the lab and you get it. The tests have to be done by professionals in a safe environment, otherwise they are not legally usable. You can also opt for a DNA test while pregnant. This is non-invasive and can be used to find out who the father is during pregnancy.
Then it’s time for a good conversation with a nice cup of tea or coffee. Talking is always better than fighting it out legally. You avoid a lot of stress, money and the risk of a rift. You want to come out of it together, so it is important that you give it a chance. We therefore recommend that you sit down and look at the facts, responsibilities and possibilities. Be open and empathic for the best chance of a good result.